Top Four Things To Look For In An Online Profile

Top Four Things To Look For In An Online Profile

by Michelle Graham

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Finding a winner in online dating sometimes feels like wandering through the labyrinth, hoping the Minotaur doesn’t attack. But it doesn’t all have to be such a mystery. It just takes a bit of practice to be able to look at a profile and know if that person is for you or not. Knowing what to look for can not only save you valuable time, it can save your emotions.

Here are four great signs that you’ve found the online dating profile of a possibly great person:

1. Snazzy photos

Just like a Facebook profile picture, the image someone chooses for an online dating profile says a ton about the kind of person he/she is. A good number of current, casual, non-Photoshopped photos is exactly what you want to see. Selfies in revealing clothing probably aren’t what you want if you are looking for a long-term relationship. People post pictures that correlate with their values, just like they will say things that reflect their inner heart (Luke 6:45).

2. Solid grammar and spelling

You don’t have to be an editor to recognize bad grammar choices. All it takes is a surface reading. Do the sentences sound well-put-together? Are there only a couple of misspellings? Missing one or two words is completely normal, but if there are more than ten massacred words or phrases, this person could be either A. Not a native English speaker B. A con-artist C. Someone who doesn’t actually care about online dating. This isn’t to say you should demand award-winning prose, but good writing in an online profile is usually a sign of a well-rounded person with good intentions.

3. Focus

A person who is serious about online dating – about really finding their match – will have a focused, direct profile. No fluff, no fancy boasts geared to catch the eye. Read closely, and even read between the lines if you can. You want to look for specific answers, not dating keywords. There are few people who don’t like walking on the beach, eating nice dinners, and going to cultural events like concerts or plays. Find a profile that gets deep into specifics and actually talks about bands they have seen live, movies they hate, or food they can’t live without. Everything you read should fit with the overall feel of the profile.

4. Faith

As believers, becoming equally yoked is essential. "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers...."(2 Corinthians 6:14, NIV). Therefore, spend a lot of time reading through the spiritual material in the person's profile. What's their faith history like, what's their favorite verse, how often do they go to church, how often do they mention Jesus in their other answers, etc. Slowing down to process their spiritual information and then investigating further through messages can help you glean tremendous amounts of information about their spiritual walk to decide if they are a legit believer activily walking with Christ.

About Michelle Graham: Michelle is a professional writer for ChristianCrush.com and has been writing with them for several years. Her clever wit and quick turn of a phrase will be sure to keep you interested in her articles, which are all geared towards the Christian online dating community.

What other great signs do you look for in an online dating profile?

Comments (5)

By the way, something else that I don't like seeing in a profile: if they sneak in a private email address, phone number, or other contact info. That's another clue to a possible scammer, but also to people who think the rules just don't apply to them. Big turn off for me.
By on April 8, 2014 @ 12:00am MT 65

Dr. WyattThanks RubyJewel....yes, sneaking in contact information is usually a bad sign and one to watch for. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
By Dr. Wyatt on April 8, 2014 @ 5:52pm MT

Number 2 is one of my biggies, actually, because I am a huge grammar snob… er, aficionado (LOL). If a profile is too sparse, then he strikes me as not sharing my interest in language and written communication, not to mention a lack of computer savviness. If the profile is full of errors, it seems he either doesn't care (which drives me nuts), or that English is not his first language. Not that being foreign born is a crime, but as you mention in your article, being loaded with errors is a common red flag for a scam profile. I think those guys use online language translators to write their letters. Those programs are notorious for creating very stilted sentences. It's usually a dead giveaway for a bad guy/girl, so I steer clear and advise others to do the same. (I haven't encountered it very often on CC yet, praise God.) I'm concerned, though, that I place too much importance on good spelling and grammar. I just can't imagine being with someone who is not my equal in language. It would be so frustrating to me! But gosh, there are a whole lot of really nice, really good, really SMART men out there who simply can't spell properly. I have to wonder if I'm doing myself a disservice. I pray for guidance from the Holy Spirit in finding a potential mate, and I have never sensed I turned away someone I shouldn't, so maybe it's OK that I impose this particular limit. It's just hard to feel fully confident that I'm not ignoring His leading. Oh well! I must press on!
By on April 7, 2014 @ 11:58pm MT 65

Thanks. This information is of great help to me, my spiritual eyes have opened up. I also love to read profile goals to assist me in choosing someone that is moving in the same direction. God bless u with this divine wisdom.
By on April 6, 2014 @ 10:37am MT 65
Dr. WyattYou're very welcome Faith Lami...so glad you found it helpful!
By Dr. Wyatt on April 7, 2014 @ 2:00pm MT

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