Top Five Terrible Signs In A Profile
by ChristianCrush Team
Somehow dating has managed to get both easier and harder in the past few years. Online dating companies appeared to simplify things for a while. Find your match! Get true love! And all you have to do is fill out a handy-dandy profile. The problem is that things are very rarely as simple as they seem, and online dating has proven it. Sure, you can consider literally thousands more people than you ever knew existed. But it also means that you often encounter more creeps and criminals than before.
You should definitely be cautious when it comes to talking to people via text, voice, or email. Yet keeping a wary eye out for catfish is something that should take place from the very beginning, from the moment you click on someone else’s profile. Of course, the problem with this kind of caution is that it often feels like taking a standardized test where all the answers seem just as good as one another.
If you want to make sure you escape scams and the dates you try aren’t awful ideas to begin with, try looking for these four terrible signs of online dating profiles:
1. No pictures
There she is. The lady with no pictures. The rest of her profile might be complete, but the only reason you know she’s blond is because she told you so. The profile that has plenty of text but no pictures is probably one of the shadiest. Some people have a good reason, such as getting ahead of themselves in the profile creation process. Maybe it just slipped by them and they’re uploading things as you read. The person to really watch out for, then, is the one who has never and most likely will never have photos. If they’ve been online for more than a week and nothing has been added, you may want to move on.
2. Pictures without words
On the other extreme from No. 1 is this winner, which is a profile that’s all pictures and very few biographical facts. My favorite example is someone who says they are too busy to fill in all the questions. Really? You’re too busy to tell me how tall you are? It’s a wonder they find the time to start the profile to begin with! There are people who aren’t very chatty or open online, but it’s not too difficult to figure out the etiquette for what does and doesn’t get said online. If someone only posts pictures and neglects the rest of their online profile, they may be used to getting their way purely based on their attractiveness.
If the pictures are all there and the profile looks mostly complete, glance through what they say and look for anything negative. This means sentences that have a lot of negative words like “I’ll never,” “I can’t,” or “I won’t.” Usually they are followed with statements about certain types of people, such as, “I’ll never date someone from Switzerland.” If they cut themselves down too often, you may want to steer clear. Trash talking themselves or certain stereotyped people can only lead to negativity and bad dating experiences down the road.
4. Déjà vu and Wha-? moments
Once you’ve decided that the general profile is complete and trustworthy, get down to the nitty-gritty and analyze what it actually says. If you’d like, you can treat it like a college philosophy class and constantly ask, “And what did he mean by that?” It’s also important to look for information that doesn’t match or seems way too familiar. Does their year of birth match up with any childhood stories? If they talk about their city or town, does it match what you know (or what Google can tell you) about those places? Be as thorough as you can – some people simply copy+paste biographies and information can get mixed up in the transfer.
5. Analyze their faith
Does the person's faith history sound authentic or really generic like they are making it up? You want to find someone who's faith history seems very personal and real. This area combined with their favorite verse can often tell you how active they are in their walk with Christ or if they are more of a cultural Christian without much intimacy with Him. Be sure to message them follow up questions about their faith as well to verify their solid connection with Christ.
At the end of the day, use wisdom when you look through online profiles. That doesn’t mean you have to treat everyone who has a slightly incomplete profile or only one (bad) photo as a leper. Sometimes second and third chances are needed for God’s plan to take effect. Just aim for all the best qualities of wisdom from James 3:17: “peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere”
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What other terrible signs do you watch for and why?