Three Ways To Know You Are Ready For A First Date

Three Ways To Know You Are Ready For A First Date

by Michelle Graham

Just as not everyone should be allowed to drive semi-trucks or be left alone with glitter, not every person out there is ready for a first date.  Call it responsibility, maturity, or just plain experience – you might need more of something to actually be ready for that initial meet-up. To figure out whether you are ready or not, start by asking yourself the following questions. If your answer each time is a bright, shining “yes!”, then you just might be ready to meet your crush face-to-face.

 

1. Are you on the same (spiritual) page?

 

According to God, there is no reason for Christians to marry non-Christians.  In these modern times, many Christian singles let faith slide to the wayside, but that shouldn’t be the case.  Not only should you not be unequally yoked, you should seek people who make you want to be a better person.  Just check out 2 Timothy 2:22: “Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.” When you both have the same spiritual goals in mind, you run less of a chance of setting aside your belief in God.

 

2. Have you set your expectations?

 

It’s important to know exactly what you’re looking for.  Expecting your crush to act like a saint 24/7 is probably asking too much.  Many women are urged to model their lives after the Proverbs 31 woman, who is the epitome of virtuous and capable. Men, on the other hand, have verses such as Psalm 1:1-6, about the wise who delight in the law of the Lord.  Or Titus 2:7: “And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.” Study the Word and if you know what qualities you want in a mate, you will be able to spot them (or not) right away.

 

3. Do you have the right intentions?

 

People date for many different reasons.  What’s yours?  Trying to fill a lonely hole with another flawed human being isn’t going to work very well.  Instead, make sure your priorities are straight before you jump in to face-to-face dating.  Do you want to meet up because they have a pretty face?  Or are you really ready for a serious relationship?  If you want to worship God with your actions by encouraging and building one another up (1 Thessalonians 5:11), you may be ready to take that first step to a new relationship.

 

In the end, being ready for a first date is completely subjective.  Knowing if you’re ready to go on that date is completely between you and God–just ask him whether you’re ready, if you’re not sure.  Keep an eye out for red flags, trust that God has you in the right place, and go for it! After all, there are some things that emoticons and text messages just can’t communicate, and a first date can help you put your questions to rest.

 

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 Dr. Wyatt Fisher is a licensed psychologist in Denver, CO and founder of ChristianCrush, the Colorado Marriage Refresh, and Fisher Christian Counseling Services

 

 

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