The Destruction of Porn

The Destruction of Porn

by Wyatt Fisher, Psy.D.

Our culture is becoming more morally bankrupt each year. Ethical standards continue to decrease as previously considered inappropriate material is being allowed through music, advertisements, TV shows, movies, etc.  People who oppose this “loosening” of moral standards are often labeled negative terms, such as prude, rigid, outdated, and stick in the mud.  As Christians, we no longer live in a world where the majority of people and institutions share our beliefs and reinforce our values. One of the biggest moral issues creating a wake of destruction is pornography. Therefore, Christian singles must become educated on the destruction of porn within marriages. 

 

Pornography is a sexual sin

 

To begin, it’s important to establish that pornography is a sexual sin.  “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality….” (Ephesians 5:3, NIV). It’s easy to become desensitized to inappropriate sexual content because it saturates the media. Pornography can be a powerful temptation because it is accessible through the internet, it’s affordable, and it can be used anonymously. Therefore, addictions to porn are easy to develop and difficult to break. As Christians, we must strive towards holiness by honoring Christ in all of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Therefore, we must continually filter what media we allow ourselves to consume to ensure it is morally pure and edifying to God.

 

Pornography reduces sex to a selfish, physical act

 

One of the first ways pornography can damage marriages is by reducing sex to a selfish, physical act.  Porn objectifies sexual organs and focuses primarily on the act of sex. People in porn rarely display any level of emotional closeness or commitment and sex is portrayed as something to get, rather than something to share.  Consequently, those consuming porn usually bring this sexual attitude into their marriages, leaving their partners feeling frustrated and disillusioned. God intended sex to be much more than a physical act. It is meant to be an expression of a couple’s emotional and spiritual intimacy within marriage where both people feel loved and cherished.

 

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Pornography creates false expectations

 

The second way porn can harm marriages is by creating false expectations. Porn portrays women as having flawless bodies from head to toe, being ready for sex instantaneously, and being incredibly responsive during love making. In reality, everyone has flaws in their physique, women often take a long time to feel sexual arousal, and most women are not hyper-responsive during love making. Obviously, this creates a large gap between one’s expectations and reality, leading to disillusionment and disappointment for both partners. Unfortunately, instead of working through these false expectations, many begin preferring pornography over sexual intimacy with their partner, creating even more damage and dysfunction.

 

Pornography destroys authentic intimacy

 

Last, pornography destroys intimacy on several levels. First, those using porn often lie about their usage out of fear, guilt, and shame. When the lie is discovered, partners usually feel devastated and extremely betrayed. If the cycle of dishonesty doesn’t stop, all hope for restoration of emotional trust in the marriage is usually lost. The next level of intimacy destroyed by pornography occurs during sexual activity. God designed love making within marriage to be a wonderful celebration of the couple’s devotion towards one another. However, those engrossed in pornography are usually thinking about porn images during sexual intimacy instead of their partner, which destroys the physical connection with their spouse. 

Pornography is certainly one of the most destructive forces in our culture today. Christians must do everything possible to eradicate it from their lives in order to purify their spirits, hearts, minds, and emotions.

 

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 Dr. Wyatt Fisher is a licensed psychologist in Denver, CO and founder of the Colorado Marriage Refresh, Fisher Christian Counseling, ChristianCrush, and PornBattle.

 

 

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Comments (6)

IHS46Matthew 5:28 "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." Can it get any clearer than this? Sadly many professing Christians have been so desensitized to their surroundings that they don't even see sin where even just only 50 years ago certain things would have been so obvious. It's like I heard a pastor say on the internet once, that a fish doesn't realize it is wet because it lives in water. In other words we are so immersed in our culture that we have lost our ability to discern. You can't even go to the grocery store without seeing magazine covers in plain view with what would have been considered pornography not that many years ago, yet we don't even think much of it anymore. Is it any wonder that even in the churches the standard for modesty is always changeing. I'm sure it's not intentional, but just from the influence of the culture around us, especially in the media. In this day and age we must be very carefull what we feed our minds for what might seem harmless could very well lead to our destruction. The enemy is subtle and very clever, but God is Greater. Romans 12:2 "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God." 1 John 4:4 Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.
By IHS46 on June 26, 2015 @ 10:17pm MT 30

Dr. WyattAmen....I completely agree how desensitized many believers have become towards sensuality since it permeates our culture. We must view the fight for purity as a war because it truly is.
By Dr. Wyatt on June 28, 2015 @ 2:02pm MT

I have seen it creep in to lives insidiously. Women can be tempted as well. I feel like it sometimes starts with simple curiosity, tempting the dabbler to think it's okay to just "look". It almost always develops into something bigger and darker which becomes out of control in so many cases. It's like smoking. Just DON'T START!
By on June 26, 2015 @ 2:47pm MT 30

Dr. WyattThat's right, many fool themselves thinking dabbling with sensuality is harmless but before long it takes over and the person feels powerless over it.
By Dr. Wyatt on June 28, 2015 @ 2:04pm MT

Charity1961I know porn has destroyed homes, and greatly harms everyone involved
By Charity1961 on June 13, 2015 @ 1:09am MT 30
Dr. WyattThanks Charity....yes, it's one of the most destructive forces against families today.
By Dr. Wyatt on June 15, 2015 @ 4:55pm MT

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